Strip Club Etiquette For Women
lilitharcane:
So I got a question regarding strip club etiquette for girls. I’ll be writing a separate post about SF clubs for groups of girls to go to, as well as general dance and room prices, and which ones are more likely to charge cover charges for women, and tipping staff protocol. This is written for alcohol clubs mainly, but stands for nude clubs as well. Dive clubs and hood clubs (not the same thing, there are incredibly upscale hood clubs in parts of the country), are a bit different, so I’ll make a few notes accordingly.
Etiquette:
- If you’re at the tip rail, you need to tip at least $1 per song, and don’t expect crazy pole tricks from girls (they don’t make us any more money, a lot of top earners don’t focus on stages as much, some pay to stay off stage), and if you’re tipping minimally, don’t expect much attention. Some of the nude clubs (like Crazy Horse) try to pull girls on stage, this isn’t allowed in topless clubs. If you can tip more please do, because performing for $2-$3 songs per set if there’s almost no people at the stage when that happens really sucks. But unless you’re in the south, or at hood clubs, making it rain isn’t the norm or expected. And don’t mention youtake pole unless she does cray pole if you’ve seen her stage, cuz first of all we look down on pole fitness it’s mostly fugly because it’s done in lycra shorts,, a sports bra, and bare feet and you flex your feet splayed out instead of wearing stripper shoes like how it’s supposed to be done, pole fitness is full of whorephobes, and it feels like you’re judging us if we didn’t learn pole. Talk about your admiration of her stage set, but tip the girls not doing pole just as good because we still get bruises and permanent joint issues just from just floor work, including lower back calcium deposits that never go away!!! and floorwork takes work too, and most of us don’t get or have insurance so if we break a bone, get a concussion or anything we’re shit out of luck. Plus if we get out face messed up or we fall and pop an implant (Jemma Jameson talks about stripper hazards in her book), we’re out of work for months with up tens of thousands of dollars of reconstructive work or cosmetic surgery many don’t have0
- If you don’t want a dance with a girl, tell her politely off the bat, but do tell her if she wants to talk that’s ok, and if you’re so inclined, you can tell her you’ll tip her to sit with you for a song if you’re so inclined, but if it’s not going to be the price of a dance, do mention “I can tip you a small amount” so she doesn’t get the wrong idea. If you’d like to buy her a drink, I would first say she doesn’t need to accept and it has no bearing on if you get a dance if she declines (if you’re potentially interested in a dance), but also if she’d just prefer the price of the drink (about $10-$15 for a mixed drink, I forget), if she’d rather have the cash to let you know. We get offered a lot of drinks and if every customer who offered us a drink did so, we’d be walking out with at least $100-$200 extra. We do appreciate water bottles or redbull regardless, tho at upscale clubs it’s more expensive ($5), and mention it won’t affect her tip. If you really are settling in, tell her when you’d like to see her come back approximately, and be honest about whether you’d like to just tip her a little to talk or spend a song or two getting to know her before a dance so she knows you’re not wasting her time.
- If you’d like a dance (let her know in 2 songs since it may be busy, SF usually is dead on holidays since people leave town, unlike AZ where memorial day and labor day are packed, but I think NYE gets crowded, amazing I’ve never worked one here for various reasons that aren’t important tho I don’t mind sharing if sent an ask), and if it’s slow (especially if you get there early) tell her within 3-4 songs max. If you’re at a dive club, tipping less for talking is ok, there’s less potential for money, we’ve probably tried to hustle most customers already, so you’re not hurting our money potentially as much, which is the reason why tipping for songs is appreciated.
- Don’t be scared to invite strippers over if you’re interested in a dance. If you’d like to spend a few songs talking to get to know her, let her know however. Anyways a lot of strippers are weirdly shy (especially without booze), and really need to learn to approach people since customers are often 5x more shy, especially with groups of girls standing with each other (not to strippers; don’t do this). If you’d like a floor host to do so, they’d be more than happy to (altho the dance tracker may be scurrying about, so I’d just ask if he’s a floor host). Tip him just a few dollars, like $2-3.
- As for dances, ask before she starts the dance (not at the table because she may get the wrong idea) what contact is allowed. I allowed more contact usually, since I had a LOT of female customers in the big alcohol clubs, and most were bisexual/curious, and really sweet, but some strippers have encountered gropey women it seems from what I’ve read, though this isn’t common in SF. Don’t be shy asking how much they take away from the specific room or dance you choose (after you choose it), so if you’re so inclined to tip (we don’t expect it from dances, but rooms are appreciated), you get an idea.
- SMILE. We’re used to girls, especially groups of girls, coming in as a joke. This is gonna make you look more friendly, as well as trying to keep an extra chair though this may be harder to packed night, and unless you’re specifically trying to face the stage or settle in, keeping your table more “open” looking helps.
- While a lot of strippers at the alcohol clubs look down on escorts (not getting into that can of worms and please if anyone comments don’t as well), mentioning you’re a sugar baby and have a lot of respect for women in the adult industry never hurts.
- Don’t refer to them as sex workers however. Most strippers off tumblr or out of activism haven’t heard of the term, at best they won’t know what it means, and at worst they’ll think you have the wrong idea about their jobs and in their minds think you’re judging them. Adult entertainers is what most of us are used to being called (or the adult entertainment industry, which encompasses mainstream/ non self produced porn, as well as glamour models and soft core porn models).
- Back to stages, when you see a girl on stage getting no tips or no one is there, please walk up and tip a dollar or two. Although you’re not at the tip rail, it sucks knowing we’re supposed to smile and take our clothes off for the entire club to see yet no one is showing appreciation.
- At celebrity or side stages, which bigger clubs often have, if you’ve been watching girl, please tip her a dollar or two, since we rarely get any money from performing when we could be hustling, but if you’re just sitting near a side stage, or haven’t been watching, don’t feel obligated.
- Bonus Tip: Compliments! We get compliments from men entire shifts, but compliments from women are always appreciated and loved. And don’t be scared to ask about asking about products, outfits, or fragrance we used, we’re flattered you like it enough to ask. If you think she’s had a boob or lip injections (since these are most common) and you think it looks good, this is a good place to ask if you tell her you’re interested in getting one. Most of us love talking about our work and what we got, we’re proud, especially when it’s complimented (well, only then.. because some people say it judgmentally), and like to talk about what we got, and specifics, and we’ll tell you our doctors. If you have questions regarding hair dressers or brows we’ll tell you too. Not many girls get fat grafting here unless they’re a feature dancer, and I shared the doctor who did amazing work on my friend, so I wouldn’t ask about that.
(via heykittygirlxx)
