I Promise.

littlemousling:

Totally cool: “Hey, do you want to be exclusive?”

Red flag: “No one but me is allowed to touch you.”

Totally cool: “It makes me feel weird when you flirt with other people, can we talk about that?”

Red flag: “If you loved me, you would stop being friends with them. You KNOW it makes me jealous.”

Totally cool: “I hope we’re together forever. I’m so in this for the long haul.”

Red flag: “If you ever left me, I would kill myself.”

Totally cool: “Your mom is really unkind to me, can we try to minimize how often you bring me when you visit her?”

Red flag: “Your mom hates me, you need to stop talking to her. She’s trying to ruin our relationship.”

Totally cool: “I love you so much, oh my god.”

Red flag: “It’s a good thing I love you so much, because no one else would. You’d be alone forever without me.”

Other important red flags to keep in mind: someone who wants to jump into emotional/financial co-dependence very fast (like moving in together right away, or becoming each other’s only confidantes right away) and won’t take no for an answer; someone who tries to minimize how often you leave the house or interact with other people; someone who threatens you or themselves or your family or pets or possessions or financial future; someone who uses guilt to keep you from leaving a relationship.

Very important reminder: You do not need a reason to leave a relationship. Neither does the other person (or people). A relationship is over when one of the people in it says it’s over, period. Obviously it’s kind to take the end of a long relationship seriously, but abusers and manipulators have lost the right to that conversation. Lie if you need to–your safety is much more important than their feelings.

Trust your instincts!

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sarcasick:

opidiod:

justablueumbrella:

A writer for the new york times interviewed a series of people who had survived jumping off the golden gate bridge. Every person she interviewed admitted that about two thirds of the way down, they realized that every seemingly meaningless problem that caused them to jump was fixable.

Every single one.

THIS IS EXTREMELY IMPORTANT

READ THIS

REBLOG THIS AND NEVER EVER FORGET IT

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bakrua:

hey im about to head to bed but i’d like to give a heads up: i am 18 yrs old and if that makes you uncomfortable you are totally within your rights to ask me to unfollow! again:

if the fact that im 18 makes you uncomfortable, please ask me to unfollow!

i wont ask for a reason beyond it. you dont even have to say that’s why. just throw me a message asking me to unfollow and i totally will.

i want underage people to feel safe on this website, and i promise there is no hard feelings whatsoever. your happiness is important and you have the right to feel comfortable

also if you’re 18+ you should reblog this bcos we have a responsibility to make people (minors/underage ppl) comfortable and safe and you never know, someone under 18 might want you to unfollow but is too scared to ask.

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yasgawd:

weirdgurlaesthetics:

I’ve just returned from Christian Taylor’s candlelight vigil, and his family does NOT want his face to be used as any page’s profile pictures, or have any sort of protests or rallies in his name, or have this made into discourse on racism (although his brother Adrian did state that “this law enforcement stuff is crazy and is happening every week”). they ask if you could not believe ANYTHING on the news or social media, and not spread anything unless it is directly from the family. they would like to remind everyone that NO ONE except the people who were there know what happened yet. please remember that this is a young man with many many dear friends and family, and we have literally just began mourning. we are all hurting. please do not turn an untimely death into immediate political discourse. remember to love each other and stay safe.

reblog this so the message can be spread, please

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itookoffmycolours:

sad-agender:

artsygf:

what a beautiful day to remember bi teenage girls are valid

not if theyre in het relationships theyre not.

…..Anyways as we were saying, what a beautiful day to remember bi teenage girls are valid

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astrologicalslut:

I’m trying to teach a lesson to my homophobic mother, so every url that reblogs are likes this will be written down and posted all over Niagara Falls

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sthealth:

sthealth:

I’ve used same format on emailing professors about my name multiple times. It’s clear and succinct, which makes it like the best or something.

Mr/Ms/Mrs/Dr/Prof [Last name],

I am a student in your [Name of course] class next semester. The roster will list me as my legal name, [Birth name]; however, I prefer to be addressed as [Chosen name] and with [female/male] pronouns [he/she], [him/her], [his/hers]. Please also forward this to the appropriate T.A. or assistant or let me know who they are so that I may inform them of this preference as well.

Thank you very much.

Sincerely,

[Chosen name]

Credit goes to some university (was it U of Colorado? I think it was)

Gonna bring this back since it’s almost back to school season. Luckily I don’t have to do this anymore but this was my routine for 6 quarters and it honestly saved me from a lot of anxiety on the first day.

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