Trauma often messes with one’s ability to say “no”.
You either consciously or subconsciously think, “I don’t want to hurt this person’s feelings” or “If I say no, then they’ll hurt me” or “It won’t really be that bad” or “I can handle this” or “I need to do this to prove myself” or “I deserve this”, or you forget that “no” is even an option.
It’s still not your fault if you didn’t say “no”, even if you think maybe you could have. It’s still not your fault. You didn’t deserve what happened to you and you didn’t bring it upon yourself. It was never your fault.
Thank you for this post omg. ❤️❤️❤️
also keep in mind that this can mess with you later in life as well. If someone tends to get emotional when you don’t do everything they say, even though they may be acting in a somewhat reasonable and non-abusive way and are just emotional people, you may find that you can’t say no to them for the same reasons as above.