This is a HUGE problem with sex workers today, from strippers to cam girls and every other sex related job in between. Daily these workers are being belittled for their job and shut down by people who boast about not “paying for it.” Like you deserve a medal.

>>First off, and most importantly, IT’S RUDE. You wouldn’t walk into any other business, look at the product and then tell the people working there you just don’t pay for that. You don’t walk into a restaurant and ask to eat for free, you don’t walk into a deli and boast you could slaughter your own meat at home for free, you don’t go to a theater and brag you could simply download the video for free. So why do it to sex workers?

>> You’re belittling people by doing this. You may not know how sex work actually WORKS. It’s not a fun jaunt through sexy land all the time. It’s actually work. Sure, it’s fun for most workers as well but it’s still a JOB. People put a lot of time, effort, and care into their work. Even if you don’t like the work, it’s still theirs. They are still a person. If you thought less of a fast food worker (which would also make you a jerk) you wouldn’t walk into their business to tell the guy behind the counter you think their jobs sucks. Don’t do it to sex workers.

>>You’re wasting our time. We literally couldn’t care less what you don’t pay for, we want to know if you DO pay for our business. If you’re a friend or acquaintance and you say something like “oh you’re work is cool, I mean I don’t pay for it but..” you’re an ass hole. You’re saying to us that you don’t think our work is valid and that we are less important. You may never need a lawyer but if you’re friend was a lawyer you wouldn’t feel the need to tell them you wouldn’t pay for their services. Think about it. On the other end, if you don’t know us at all we care even less. You may accidentally come across a sex worker, it happens online often enough, but you don’t have to waste our time by explaining you don’t pay for it. If you’re not going to purchase anything excuse yourself politely and move on. Don’t try to whine for something free, don’t try to boast about how often you get laid, don’t try to shit on us in any way. Just go away.

>>It doesn’t make you look cool. I promise, not a single sex worker ever hears about how you don’t pay for it and thinks “man, this person is so swell they really don’t have to pay.” You just look like an jerk AND cheap. We think less of you.

>>It wont get you free stuff.You will not tell us you don’t pay and have us magically decide to give you things for free. We know about free porn online, we know you could fish for a drunk person at the bar to take home, these aren’t our services. We obviously offer something more and different for your money and time. If that’s not up your alley, just move on.

>>And finally, because you’re missing out. I’m not going to tell you every time you buy a video from a cam girl or a lap dance or even a romp in a hotel room, if you’re so inclined, will be great and wonderful. But what’s so special about your money you wont give it a shot? It very well could be amazing! You’re willing to try the new movie that’s in theaters you’re skeptical about, you’re stoked to try the new burger joint down the street, you’re happy to pay a silly amount for tickets to the traveling fair, so why not pay for some fun time with another person? You may be surprised! Even as a sex worker myself I’ve bought lap dances, custom photo sets, and more. It’s a special moment just for you and you’re making the worker happy to please you. Even if you’re shy so you just buy a pre-made video you’re getting to see this person in an all new light. This real person right in front of you who you can usually chat with and get to know. You can make a fun, sexy connection with them that you couldn’t otherwise. You get to see them in a way most other people can’t, without having to have a relationship or fish at a bar or often even leave the comforts of your own home!